I am reading a number of pages in the Abraham Hicks book Law of attraction every day. Today, there was something that I read, and I realized very clearly where my focus needs to be. I need to focus on myself and on my well-being and good-feeling.
Now, in short, this means that I don’t want to participate in other peoples’ negative and/or destructive manifestations. If I feel that I’m being drawn into a downwards spiral, I need to back out rapidly. If I see from a distance that a situation comes up that would do me harm rather than good – even if it doesn’t necessarily hurt me in person, but rather by negative energy, then I do need to listen to myself firstly and back away.
I kind of like the idea of this. I am, at least in some sense, a helper. I like to help people when and if I can. There are presently at least two people in my life who needs help of one sort or the other. One of them I help gladly. It’s a person whose situation has very clear limits in time. When the time’s up, there’s no need for anymore help. The other person has greater need of help, and there I need to be careful with how much I’m willing to give and just how much it’d affect my pattern of thought.
Because after all, my goal with the law of attraction is to create a fuller and more joyful life for myself. Being affected by other peoples’ misery of one sort or the other will do me no good. And considering the fact that I am at least thinking about cutting off social media to some extent, being affected by peoples’ private life is not so different.
I know I say this every now and then, and maybe it doesn’t really seem like so, but I actually do feel that I am on my way. The fact that I conciously choose to focus on my own good-feeling and well-being instead of focusing on what I can do for others, is quite the step for me. I lived my entire life to please others – and no more. I’m done with that. From here and on I live my life to please me, to experience joy and to feel good about myself.
Come to think of it – I have other friends who could use some positive change in their lives as well. I’d love to help with that, but I just realized – while thinking about me saying it to them, that sure – I can help and produce change, but that change would be articifial and not real. All change needs to come from whomever it concerns. Especially changes of such magnitude as the ones created through the law of attraction.
Anyway; to return to the subject of this post – there will be no participating in other peoples’ bad business for me. I will hereby direct my focus on things that make me feel good. I want to feel content. I want to feel fulfilled. I want to love and be loved. I want to know what I want. I want to be happy. I will know which situations to avoid and which situations to walk right into.
It has to be that way.